Ahhh Life!

Each decade, it seems, life throws new stuff at you.  You can take it as a challenge, an opportunity, or just as it comes.  But, you do have to take it. 
 
That first decade of life is all about your family or the people around you.  They have total responsibility for you.. and ya, a lot of times it gets pretty messed up. 

The second decade is all about breaking away and taking on responsibility for your own life.  At least that was how I looked at it.  Maybe it is different today.. although there are still a few ‘back in the day’ folks that for one reason or another are stuck in  their teens.

But, for those that did move on, the 20’s were mostly about finding your way back to family anyway: discovering your place in the world.. getting an education, a job and someone to share a life with.

Your thirties.. well, it’s all about the family again, only this time, you are sort of stuck .. the job, the mortgage.. life is busy, often frustrating and life can be demanding.  The joys are as joyful as the hardships are hard.  

However,  by the time you are 40 you have figured a few things out and can see the rewards of a life well lived on the horizon.  You make that transition from adulthood.. by the end of the decade you are almost back to.. well almost back to your teens?!


At 50.. that horizon you thought you saw has totally changed and you are excited to start over again. Families reconfigure or break up, for a variety of reasons including kids growing up,  grandparents, great aunts, and even parents passing on.  It can be a time of great sadness.. but it seems life is always balanced by great joy..   we become the grandparents and fall in love all over again!  

And it is during our 50’s, a time by which we have accumulated all that  ‘stuff’ we thought we needed, that we suddenly discover we don’t want all that crap.  We start to shed things.. the big house, the piano, the fine china: who needs it? 

And then 60 comes along and .. well, this may be the best, and lightest, decade so far!  Some of us are retired, or at least working less.  We discover travel, and play and dig deeper into our inner selves.. our creative side.  This appears to be the decade when things start to come together.  We have the experience of all those other decades and time to reflect on who we are, what we have done, and what we still want to do.

At 60,  you can gather together all that you have learned about life and yourself.. and start again.  This time,  you can’t blame your parents, or your life.. you really do have to take responsibility for all that is you.   You have the power now to go where you want and do what you want.  

At 60, it should all start to come together…





You just have to slow down a bit, see 'it', and then dive right in!  After all.. 70 is next, and who knows what happens then?!  

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kimley said…
So you're saying I should look forward to my 60's! A few years to go yet but I look forward to the slowing down bit xx
February 9, 2017 at 2:50 PM
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